Single for the holidays

Last Friday, I went to happy hour with friends, and found myself having a very pleasant conversation with another woman who’d joined our party. As we made small talk, I asked her what she was doing for the upcoming holidays. She told me she would be spending time with family and friends on Christmas, but that she had no plans for New Years Eve. This then sent her into a tailspin about the pressure she faces from friends and family around the holidays because she’s single with no prospects in sight. One friend in particular told her that having a date for New Years sets the whole tone for the year. And if she didn’t have a date for that evening, she would more than likely be dateless throughout the entire year.

After we finished laughing at the nonsense that people had been filling her head with, I told her that what God has in store for her, is strictly for her. And that she shouldn’t allow anyone to place restraints on her life like that, even if that person is a good friend. I also told her that I believed in the laws of attraction and that if she remains open to love and all its possibilities, that it would no doubt find her when the time was right.

I’m not quite sure why being single, especially around the holidays, has such a negative connotation. Just because you are single doesn’t mean that you are lonely, or that you’ll be single for the rest of your life. This is the most wonderful time of the year, and part of what makes it so wonderful is spending time with family and friends that you care you about. And not having a significant other shouldn’t make the holidays any less magical or special. True love is hard to find, but it is definitely worth the wait, so I say, what’s the rush? Kick back, enjoy life, and everything else will fall into place.

Written By: Ariel Driskell

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  1. Tracy says:

    Although I am NOT single, I do want to comment on this excellent article. I trully believe that you should not listen to everything that even well intentioned friends may have to offer. Enjoy your life while you are single, and then if/when you become part of a couple, enjoy that part of your life as well. Certainly don’t just find a date or someone to spend time with just for New Year’s Eve, you will more than likely be very miserable on that evening. Do what Ariel has suggested, kick back and enjoy! There is so much more to life than being “hooked up”!

  2. Renee says:


    Why do we women feel, we are not complete if we don’t have a man in our lives. There is a season for everything. Being single means you can do a lot of things, and probably go and see more places if you have a man in your life. Being single gives you time to find the right man, and even find out who you are. I have lots of friends who are hooked up, but they are depress, money-less and they stay at home more than ever..

    Let’s focus on enjoying life. And leave the dating game to God.

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