Following directions and signs are necessary for every day living. For instance, when driving, it’s important to follow the signs that warn us about detours, or it could be something as simple as a stop sign. Imagine what would happen at a four way stop if all drivers ignored the stop signs. In the blink of an eye, an accident happens which could have been avoided if all of the drivers would have just obeyed the stop signs. If we didn’t have signs properly directing us, we’d have a hard time trying to get to wherever it is that we’re going, or better yet, never each reaching our desired destination. So why is that we don’t always follow the signs that God sends us in life, but especially when it comes to dating?
So often when in a relationship, we over look warning signs that the person we’re dating may not be the one for us. I think it’s important to follow your instincts when dating. That little voice inside of your head that tells you when something doesn’t feel right is there for a reason. I’m not saying that you should run after the 1st argument, but before throwing caution to the wind and jumping into a relationship, take your time to get to know them, i.e. proceed with caution. And if you start to have the same argument over and over again, that would probably be a good time to cut ties, and wish that person well.
Please know that I am not saying that every relationship is perfect, to have such high standards would always lead to a break up the very first time that special person disappoints you. However, to constantly ignore reoccurring warning signs, is a recipe for disaster. A healthy relationship should promote positive growth, as well as hopefully lead to a long term commitment such as marriage. Don’t get stuck in a relationship that isn’t going any where but in a circle. Being able to recognize when someone isn’t right for you, is a sign of maturity. It means you know what you want, as well as what you deserve, and that you believe in God’s promise of the abundant life he has in store for you. Stop making excuses on why you should stay with someone who you aren’t mean to be with because the longer you stay with them, the longer you block your blessing. So, what signs are you ignoring in your relationship?
By: Ariel Driskell